Noticing the past’s existence

By Staff
Nathan Strickland
Columnist
Have you ever had a person to hold a grudge against you for an extremely long period of time? This could have happened in any type of relationship: friendships, past boyfriends/girlfriends or even divorcees. I believe that society today wears its feelings on its shoulder. Can a grudge be held too long? I think it can. Let me throw out a few situations and see what you think.
A friend of mine told me one time he had ran into a past girlfriend at the grocery store. This wasn’t just any random girl, this was his first love, first kiss, the person he first truly felt complete with.
He and this girl met in high school and dated for about a year and then called it quits. Within that year, my buddy told me that the relationship had a lot of great memories. It had ended because she cheated on him and he, in return, cheated on her. He said he forgave her for her cheating and they dated for about a month longer then he cheated on her and she couldn’t forgive him so they broke up. Keep in mind that all of this happened about seven years ago. Now back to the present, my buddy said he ran in to her and, instead of acknowledging one another, they both went out of their way to avoid each other. Is that not pathetic? Flip (not his real name) said he has dated many girls since his first love and can speak to everyone of them except for her because she won’t even acknowledge his existence. Are people really able to cut someone so deep that seven years can’t even sew up the wound? The couple spent one entire year of their life together. Does that not mean anything? Flip said it doesn’t bother him, but believes that a simple hello can be said instead of passing by each other like two strangers who never knew each other.
Friendships can be the same way. I have had friends in the past that would not stick by me. A rumor spread, and knocked one of my friends out of my life. I see that same friend from time to time and we never speak. We were friends for 10 years and now not a word. My thought is get over it and tie up those loose ends. Life is too short to have to go through it avoiding people because someone’s feelings got hurt. There I’ve said my peace. Until next time. Later Dayz…